Teens are certainly confusing and complicated, but there is one thing that’s crystal clear about them: More than anything else, they want to fit in with their peers. They want and need to stay connected. Without connection, they feel lonely and isolated and are at risk of becoming anxious and sad.
On the other hand, you don’t want your teens to feel drained and exhausted by their friendships, either.
Teens, like adults, run into all sorts of dilemmas with their friends. It would be surprising if they didn’t. And adolescence is an excellent time for your teens to learn that friendships are very nuanced and neither all good nor all bad. They are, as we have grown fond of saying lately, full of shades of gray.